Healthy Conflict vs. Dirty Fighting

Conflict doesn't have to be a dirty word. If you and your partner focus on having healthy conflict, then you can make your fights work for you instead of against you!

I talk a lot on this blog about the difference between conflict and fighting, and I think that it’s high time I talked about the difference between the two.  I’ve mentioned that conflict is unavoidable in the past, but what is it that separates healthy conflict from dirty fighting? Healthy Conflict…

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The Subtle Song of Conflict

Conflict can spark deep intimacy if it is done well. Don't fear your differences in perspective!

Conflict: every relationship experiences it.  It’s what happens when two people can’t come to an agreement about an issue.  It’s not something that many couples look forward to, but it provides the most potent opportunity to grow our relationships. Anyone who has read this blog knows that I am a…

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Fight Like You Love Each Other

Even professional fights have rules

(Updated 6/28/2017) Fighting sucks.  I know that this is about as controversial a statement as saying that ice cream is a nice treat on a hot day, but that doesn’t make it any less valid.  Learning to fight well may not make them a pile of rose petals, but it…

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